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In-Field Approach Videos

Markus — 9/6/2010

Watch this collection of the best in-field videos of men approaching women in clubs and on the street. Probably one of the best ways to learn the Game for many guys is to watch others doing it and learning from it, so the next time you see a beautiful woman you just walk up to her and do the exact same thing. And, it helps your mind focus on an experience that works, instead of having your monkey chatter thinking about the last time you failed when approaching a woman.

Have fun with th

The Tao of Dating

Markus — 9/5/2010

Have you ever heard of the word Tao? Maybe you have seen the movie The Tao of Steve, which is a classic where a totally bad-looking guy gets all the women and his friends dont seem to be able to figure out why, until he explains all the rules of the Game to them. This was way before The Pickup Artist but those theories

Mystery Video Course:How To Become a Pickup Artist

Markus — 8/29/2010

&color2&rel Mystery recently released a quite nice Video Course on YouTube, a complete Venusian Artist Bootcamp Workshop for free! And guess what - we have done the searching for you and supply you with all the videos right here on this page. Just scroll down as there are about 40 parts of the video. Enjoy!

Remark: The links to YouTube are provided as reference only. The owner of this site has no responsibility for these links on an external page and by clicking on a link or playing a vid

Mystery In-Field Videos

Markus — 8/29/2010

I still believe Mystery is one of the worlds greatest pick-up artists, and I have really enjoyed watching the first two seasons of his VH1 TV Show The Pickup Artist. I think it is especially rewarding to guys who are starting to get into the game to see others approaching women and to see the thing actually work.

The best scenes of the show, in my opinion, were the ones where Mystery and his wingman Matador went into the club and went crazy with the girls. So I decided to do a little sea

Get Out Of Your Head!

Markus — 8/19/2010

I have recently been to Italy. And besides all the cool food and wine they serve there, I have noticed one thing: Italians have style. They are pretty much different than the rest of Europe or North America, in the way they do things. Like they build fancy Alfa-Romeo cars, or they spend a fortune on shirts, suits or shoes. Man, do they have great shoes there!

So, the point is, there in Italy I had a great insight I want to share with you. The way italians live is pretty much to enjoy lif

Do You Think You Are Good In Bed?

Markus — 8/16/2010

Do you think you are good in bed? Everybody says they are good in bed. I have never met anyone who has said to me, �You know, I am REALLY bad in bed!� Everybody thinks they are a fantastic lover.

Lets talk about this (because you KNOW I have an opinion!)

I have been with some really terrible lovers. I have been with some women who were so bad in bed, that I wouldn't even recommend them to a virgin friend.

The truth is, though, that what makes someone bad or g

Awareness

Markus — 7/18/2010

One thing every Pick-up Artist has to incorporate into his training programme is to train awareness. I mean this both in a sense of self-awareness and environment-awareness.

First of all, women are said to have a much higher social awareness than the typical man. If you want to be successful and in control of social situations with women, you should go out and train awareness.

Awareness is all about the subtle things in life, the information hidden between the lines. For many m

Openers and Pickup Lines

Markus — 7/3/2010

Lets talk about openers and pickup lines. These two are often confused and I want to give you some ideas on it.

First, in solid pickup we do not use what is called Pickup Lines. There is no magic line that opens every woman and makes her attracted to you. Instead, see it as a process. Complete every step before you do the next one.

Openers are not designed to be pickup lines, they are no magic wand that make everyone attracted. Openers are a tool for the first stage, the Appr

A Social Proof Booster Secret

Markus — 6/20/2010

One of the success factors in success with approaching and seducing women is an attraction switch that demonstrates preselection. You will be perceived as more attractive by a woman if she sees that other people also like you or find you attractive. This is called social proof and is a wired-in shortcut that uses the opinion of others to get a quick first judgment about a person (by the way, pretty much the way Google works!). It runs beyond conscience automatically at all times.

So, you

Just Dont Screw It Up, Man!

Markus — 6/20/2010

This is one of those blog posts that are more of an inspirational type and should bring some new ideas to think about. I have recently heard a quite nice way of looking at the game of dating, that I would like to share with you. I think this can really change the way you see the world.

The idea is beautifully simple: Really all that it takes to be more successful in dating is to take care not to screw things up with a woman.

Lets take a closer look at this idea. Basically, what i

5 Ways to Get Started with Women

Markus — 5/23/2010

5 Ways to Get Started with Women, by The Fivetonine

As you might have realized, the most difficult part in the area of getting successful with women is the beginning. It�s where you experience such strange things like Approach Anxiety and other weird fears for apparently no reason.

These fears are deep-rooted into every human being and reinforced by our society. And a big part of beginning to be successful with women will be to unlearn these programs and replace them by new,

Stop Rating Women

Markus — 4/25/2010

In this blog I wanna lay down my opinion on classifying people. This is an awful thing done in large parts of the pickup scene and puts a scale on 1 to 10 to rate people by their visual appearance.

I mean, come on. This sounds like a couple of nerds playing computer games. �Oh, your monster is a 6, but I have killed a 7 yesterday by using the ultra-secret decimizer weapon�.

For me, only two ratings exist. They are very simple � yes and no. Meaning, yes I would sleep with them, or

Be The Mysterious Man

Markus — 4/23/2010

The whole pickup scene is talking about Being Mysterious since years. But does anyone know what it really means and what it takes to be mysterious?

It certainly does not mean to copy other pickup artists and buy stupid hats and goggles. These items may be fun to wear, but many guys they look just plain nerdy with it. It is time to realize that being mysterious and interesting comes from the inside, not the outside.

In my experience, I have found that it takes three main factors t

About Dating A Total 10

Markus — 4/8/2010

Have you ever thought about how it would be to date one of these total 10 hot babes you see each saturday at the health club? I bet you did. And by thinking about how it would be to do this, you messed things up already. How I know that? Because if you think how it WOULD be, you imply that this will actually never happen. Which, in turn, leads to the fact that it never happens.

Mindset is a key factor in successful Game, and I think this is obvious for everyone. Especially when it comes

Forget The Comfort Zone!

Markus — 2/4/2010

So, youre dating this total 10 and you think youve made it? Dont you dare. The moment you feel safe back in your comfort zone and begin to feel secure about your conquest is the point where you should really be alert. Because you are bound to be in trouble.

Unless you fully understand The Game, all the social rules and techniques, as well as relationship dynamics, you should not put yourself to rest. Much less if you have a beautiful woman by your side. Because she makes you feel comfort

Being Rejected

Markus — 12/20/2009

Many of us fear approaching women and asking them out or kissing them because they are afraid of being rejected. I truly believe that "Being Rejected" really means something profoundly different to each one of us.

But for whatever reason you fear being rejected, it still holds you back from approaching, asking her out, kissing or - in short words - from escalating in general.

Escalating means to go out of your comfort zone and trying to invade the comfort zone of someone

Abundance Mentality

Markus — 12/20/2009

Just in these days I thought about how easy life would be if we had a more Abundance-focused mind. People are driven mostly by fear, and in many cases this is fear of loss or fear of being alone. Both fears have the underlying assumption that whats important to them, like money, relationships, fortune... is not available in abundance, but limited and scarce and therefore has to receive a special status.

Now guess what. While for money this might hold true (it does in fact not), for intan

The Creepy Guy

Markus — 12/6/2009

We all have seen him. He walks around supermarkets, shopping malls, health clubs and even joins yoga classes. And you can see from far away what he is up to: chasing down women. His staring looks scan the room for anyone that fits into his scheme. His intentions are obvious to anyone taking a closer look, but he doesnt notice. Thats what I call the creepy guy. And there is plenty of them in this world.

First of all, its not cool to walk around like a hunter on the search for prey. Peop

How To Seduce Women over the Phone

Markus — 12/3/2009

Written by M

This blog is about all the nice things you can do to women over the phone. And with that, I dont mean calling a phone sex hotline and moaning into the handset.

To understand things better, it is important to know that women are true masters in making up fantasies and visualization. They are much better than men in this. At the same time, they enjoy being in their cosy little safe place when playing with themselves. So here I lay out a few nice things to try over

Facebook dating

Markus — 11/1/2009

I wanna talk today about social networking sites like Facebook, MySpace or Hi5 and how you can make use of them in improving your success with women.

Actually, social networking sites are a great invention. They allow you to stay in touch with people you already know, and in the meantime nearly everybody is in there with his profile.

In the realm of dating and getting to know women, these sites are particularly helpful if you use them in a right way. There are a few guidelines th

The Game is played in the details!

Markus — 10/30/2009

Its Friday night and I hang out at home, trying to get rid of my cold. I hope its not the swine flu because I hate being stuck at home just as bad as you probably do.

Lets talk about Details today. I think this is such an important issue nowadays. Nowadays its easy to get some advice on picking up women, on how to get a girlfriend and so on. What you get in 90 percent of the cases is some very general, widely available knowledge that is of absolutely no value to most of us.

Imagi

Male Makeup Tips

Markus — 10/28/2009

I have been to London recently and I decided to stop by at one of the high-class shopping malls to buy some male makeup. While shopping around, I noticed that I was the only male customer in the makeup department, which made it easy to flirt with the ladies there. But that should not be the topic of todays blog, where I want to talk about how makeup can be used successfully in making you more attractive.

Many men believe makeup is just for gays and weirdos. Actually many gay men are ador

Tests from Women

Markus — 10/20/2009

Have you ever been in a situation where a woman put you in an awkward situation just to see how you react? I am sure you have been. Because thats what all women will do occasionally just to test you.

She will do it unconsciously, driven by an inner impulse to be always sure she is in the hands of a strong man where she can feel secure. She might not be consciously aware of it, but she does it just to prove that.

So, for example, you might be in a phone conversation with her, jus

Nightlife in New York's Greenwich Village

Markus — 10/6/2009

On my last stay in New York City, we went out with a bunch of friends in the chic Greenwich Village area. Its a district with many old, low-rise buildings that have been renovated and form a very well-groomed neighbourhood, one of the most expensive ones in Manhattan, as I was told.

We started the evening in a rooftop lounge at the Gansevoort Hotel, having a couple of beers and enjoying the stunning view over the Westside Park and Hudson river.

Eye Game

Markus — 9/5/2009

Today I want to draw your attention to a part of The Game that is often forgotten and cannot be repeated too many times: The importance of eye contact in seducing women.

From a very young age already, female babies learn to respond to eye contact and facial expressions much more rapidly than males. This is scientifically proven. Later in life, this difference gets even bigger. Men normally dont really focus on the eyes of another person, while women often can tell eye color of all their

Phone Sex Revealed: By David Wygant

Markus — 9/1/2009

I just got the "heads up" about something AMAZING that I managed to finagle you all an opportunity to get.

I had a chance to check this thing out -- and, in a word, it's SMOKIN' HOT!

I was talking to my friend David Wygant the other day, and he was mentioning that he is about to put out this new phone sex product as a "special" thing for his list...

Well, I was intrigued (and maybe a little worried about what David was doing in his spare

New technique to approach girls

Markus — 8/31/2009

Do you think this technique to approach girls would work?

Hey guys. You know, normally I am not a fan of cheesy pickup lines or routines. I think the best way to get into contact with a woman has to be based on her experience in the moment and has to tie in wit

On Being A Man

Markus — 8/30/2009

This one is about being a real man. A man that can arouse a womans desire and lead her. In todays life, the picture of men has been distorted by movies, advertisement and education. What I mean is that many men don't know any more what is their real essence and what is his natural form of being. these men will always have difficulties in getting to know women and getting intimate witht them, and they seldom know why. You can be a handsome, good-looking man and still get no girl just becaus

The Friends Check

Markus — 8/11/2009

The Friends Check

by Markus

Hey I hope you guys are enjoying the summer just as I do. Its an amazing time of the year, and its time to go out and flirt with some women.

Today I want to talk about your friends. Yes, not you, but your friends. Because actually, your friends determine to a great extent how successful you will be in your life - or not. This does not only affect the part of being successful with women, but all other parts of like as well, like business or your f

Being Present

Markus — 5/9/2009

The way a person is present and working a room is SO important I want to dedicate a separate blog entry to this topic. Everyone knows Bill Clinton and the way he is present in a room. You can literally feel his presence even if you don't look at him directly. It's like an aura of being-present that surrounds him and gives him a lot of energy.

Lets go a bit deeper into that. What is presence? And why is it so important? Well, if you have heard about the word CHI, you know that it

Technical improvements and RSS

Markus — 5/7/2009

Hey folks, My web team has done some major improvements to the blog and also fixed some technical issues with the web site. In short, we now support RSS feeds, we thought that would be a useful took for you to be able to better follow the blog.

In addition, we fixed a problem some of you had when attempting to post a comment. In some cases you received a HTTP404 error, this should be solved now. So just leave a comment to try if it works!

I want to thank all blog followers for y

Are You a Coulda Woulda Shoulda?

Markus — 5/6/2009

Hey, ever heard about the Coulda Woulda Shoulda? Yeah, it sounds like a rare disease, and while it is not so rare indeed, it IS a disease. It's a disease spread out among many people who have great goals in mind but do NOTHING to reach them.

I mean lets be honest. How many times have you not done something you wished to do deep inside, only to regret it afterwards and saying "Oh, I Should have done this" or "I Could have done that" or "If I would have talked to th

Attraction Momentum

Markus — 4/22/2009

I have a concept, and it goes like this . . . There's a kind of build-up of attraction that happens when a man and a woman meet. You could say that the more attraction happens, the more attraction it creates. This process happens very differently for men than it does for women. For men, it can happen instantly, and be over instantly. For women, it tends to build up over time, and then go away over time. I call this concept: "ATTRACTION MOMENTUM."

Men are very visual and the

Get A Life!

Markus — 4/15/2009

Hey hows everybody doing. I just come home from an afternoon in the gym and I just had a revelation I HAVE to share with you.

Its about life energy, something we all need and that determines our life and the success we have. Do you feel you have enough energy all the time? Or are there situations where you think you could use an extra blast, maybe trying to take a Red Bull or down some booze in order to pump you up?

Some of us just dont live a life that is able to deliver the suc

The Magic Mindset

Markus — 4/13/2009

Last night I was out with a friend of mine, who's a total natural with women. I mean this guy is amazing and he doesn't even know what he's doing that is so attractive to women. His name is Stephen and today I will tell you his story and the amazing mindset you can learn from a total natural.

Let's face it - you've probably learned a lot of techniques and so-called tricks of the trade regarding pickup so far. But for some reason all of this is nice to know but somet

The 10 Rules Of Vacation Dating

Markus — 3/29/2009

1) Who Are You Travelling With?

Are you travelling alone or in a group? Both has its advantages and disadvantages. Let's take a closer look - Travelling alone seems frightening at first sight, but offers you more opportunities to meet people. You are forced to socialize and meet people, and it makes you more flexible in your planning.

Going with a group makes it easier to appear social and fun through social proof, but be aware that some groups tend to close their borders

Don't Be A Whiskey Dick

Markus — 2/13/2009

It used to be so easy. We would get drunk each friday night and then go out hit the clubs in town to find some girls. And oh, man, were we successful. The more booze we squashed down our veins, the easier the words came out of our mouth. Seductive words. We were cool, or at least, we believed we were. We had a whole night of fun and eventually took a chick home. Thats where the drama started. We were tired of all the booze, dancing and talking shit all night. And we wanted to sleep. Our little f

10 Surefire Rules for More Success With Women

Markus — 2/8/2009

10 Surefire Rules For More Success With Women

Pickup is a rather complex and wide topic. There is tons of material available on the internet and in the form of books, audio books, DVDs and seminars. You can do bootcamps with so-called "Gurus" and you can take week-long theory courses to give you each and every detail and a step-by-step process on what to do when and how to say it.

If you don't have the time or want to put in the effort to read it all, and you want

Just Be Yourself!?

Markus — 2/3/2009

Just Be Yourself! Haven't you heard that piece of advice? It seems to me that many of the so-called PUA gurus, especially the ones that call themselves "naturals", tell their students to do just that to be successful. Just be yourself and everything works out well.

But that is for sure the greatest BS I've ever heard in my life! No wonder many guys feel helpless and frustrated because they just don't seem to "get it". If I stay myself and do what I always have

Blow Your Boundaries

Markus — 1/30/2009

Are you an adventurous person? Always striving for something new? Or are you a person that's satisfied with the present status and avoids looking too far out of the box?

Maybe you should think about your boundaries then. Basically what this is about is that it is human nature to live and behave within the boundaries you set yourself, which are defined by your experience so far. These boundaries can be very narrow if you are a person with limited exposure to 'new' things, or

It's A Numbers Game

Markus — 1/2/2009

Todays Blog is for all the scientifically-minded among you. And dont ask me why, its normally the logic-oriented in-their-heads guys that dont get laid too often. But thats another story and will not be part of our story today!

Its about life being a numbers game, and I'm sure you've already heard that way too often. But lets take the time to break that down a little bit. Technically spoken, our dating life is nothing else than a funnel. In sales training, where I come from, we t

Don't Wait To Be Happy

Markus — 1/2/2009

Hey folks, what's your approach to life? Are you waiting for the perfect day to come, the perfect night, the perfect opportunity? Or do you live and enjoy the moment?

I think life is much too short to wait for that magical day to come when we all are going to be happy. If you calculate from your current age to, say, 70 years, you will find out that there's a pretty limited number of remaining days available. If you calculate it to the age where your sexual life usually ends, it

Attract The Woman You Want

Markus — 1/1/2009

How did you spend new year's eve? I hope you had a GREAT party night and a good time with your friends.

Today I want to share a nice little story with you, about the LAW OF ATTRACTION. You probably heard about this before, as for example in the book "The Secret". Basically, the Law of Attraction says that you attract things you focus your mind on, and desire them with a positive emotion involved. These things will then gravitate towards you without you having to do anyth

Trust Yourself

Markus — 12/29/2008

Trust Yourself
by Markus D

Do you trust your gut feelings? Or do you think - like many others - that everything you conciously see and perceive is enough to make a good decision?

If you ever walked up to a woman with a pre-canned line and then completely failed when trying to deliver it, you may know what I mean: It is not possible for us humans to think while we're talking to other people. Thinking consciously while doing things that have to happen in real-time, like

Are You A Good Salesperson?

Markus — 12/26/2008

Are you a good salesperson?

By Markus D

Do you consider yourself a good salesperson? Or do you rather walk around and try to do things without a real plan, hoping that "one day it will happen"?

I have recently done quite a big amount of sales training to our staff members, and in that process I realized that dating is pretty much similar to what good salespeople do. If you want to be successful with the other sex, you must become a great salesperson and yo

Be A Leader With Women

Markus — 12/26/2008

I've spent quite some time travelling the world and being with women in several different countries. In contrast to western first-world women, these women have one big positive difference. They are very honest and show you how natural women are supposed to be. You can learn a lot of these women.

Women constantly test you - not only first-world women, but also natural ones. Tests are not something that has been created in the mind of some "crazy" western women, but are a in

Make A Decision, Now!

Markus — 12/26/2008

By Markus D

Have you ever pondered over an important decision for hours, not getting to sleep the whole night, only to wake up the next day with a hangover but still not knowing what to do? So, what will you finally do? Will you ask your parents for advice? Or maybe your friends? What if they tell you your idea is absolutely B.S.? Or will you go for one of the options, constantly thinking that the other ones would have been great, too.

Well, you are not alone. But life is a