Tests from Women
Markus | Posted 10/20/2009

Have you ever been in a situation where a woman put you in an awkward situation just to see how you react? I am sure you have been. Because thats what all women will do occasionally just to test you.

She will do it unconsciously, driven by an inner impulse to be always sure she is in the hands of a strong man where she can feel secure. She might not be consciously aware of it, but she does it just to prove that.

So, for example, you might be in a phone conversation with her, just as it happened to me yesterday. We havent seen in a while, because we live quite far away from each other, but we talk frequently on the phone. Whenever we see each other, it's a total freak show and we usually dont leave the bed for two days straight.

So we talk about the next time we would meet up, and suddenly she says, 'you know, maybe you better dont see me next time you're coming'. Right out of the blue.

After a second of astonishment, I realized this was a test if she can still trust me and count on me. I could have chickened out and said, 'Why, babe, but I want to see you so much, whats your problem blah blah blah'.

But I didn't. The only thing I said was, 'You know, I dont care. I'm OK with coming over and hanging out for myself. I never had a problem meeting up with someone new, you know that. But I would still love to see you as well. It's up to you.'

I said this from a position of total strength, absolutely cool and secure. She immediately got it, we continued talking about how each would feel when we saw each other again the next time, how exciting it would be. I leaded her through the whole experience in my head. It was like meeting me for the first time. In the end, after fifteen minutes, we became pretty sexual and she told me how horny and desperate she was to see me and I had to promise her to visit her soon.

Now, if that sounds strange to you, you're not alone. But this is exactly how the female mind works. When a woman says something to you, she is fully in the moment, and its in many cases more about how she feels in that moment rather than how she rationally thinks about the situation. If she tells you she's not sure whether she wants to see you next time you come by, all she really wants to say is that in the present moment she's unsure about her relationship with you and that she's not in the mood.

You must never take this seriously like a typical man would do, and chicken out. Rather than that, you must embrace her where she's coming from and lead her out of that bad emotion into a positive one. You must invite her to feel the excitement of being with you, and she will immediately be excited about you.

A situation can turn around very quickly if you see it from this point of view. You better learn to she-talk soon!

The way I see it, when a woman is testing me, this is a beautiful sign of female behaviour. Its so sweet because it means that she wants to be with me, that she wants to feel secure with me. It is a test of trust, and dont let her down on this. She will reward you plenty at night in bed.

This blog was posted by Markus on 10/20/2009 and is filed under Dating, Relationships, Sex.