Facebook dating
Markus | Posted 11/1/2009
I wanna talk today about social networking sites like Facebook, MySpace or Hi5 and how you can make use of them in improving your success with women.
Actually, social networking sites are a great invention. They allow you to stay in touch with people you already know, and in the meantime nearly everybody is in there with his profile.
In the realm of dating and getting to know women, these sites are particularly helpful if you use them in a right way. There are a few guidelines that I want to share with you.
Use Social Networking sites primarily to follow-up or reconnect.
The value of Facebook etc is clearly in following up with people you already know or have gotten to know. Nowadays its much less threatening to get one's Facebook name than her phone number. And with PM messages, you can easily begin a conversation which you can later bring on the phone.
Social Networking sites are NO dating sites. This is an advantage and a disadvantage at the same time. Advantage because it's non-threatening, non-committing to be there, and to contact someone. These sites are built for people wanting to fly in under the radar! At the same time, of course, people don't want to be cold-approached too directly as they might expect at a dating site. In social networking sites, always have a reason to approach someone.
The biggest value of these sites, in my opinion, is the power of the Network. It makes you see how big of a network of friends you really have which you can leverage. And, the more friends you have, the better you can use your facebook page as social proof.
Indeed, as social proof is among the most important things in building attraction, I urge you to really make use of this tool. One thing many girls first look at a person's profile is the number of friends he/she has. Why? Because social proof is one of the most trustable indicators of social status. Everything else can be faked today - money, clothing style, knowledge, anything. But friends not. Friends are made because you are a remarkable person everyone likes being around. And therefore the number of friends is a surefire indicator on how much people value you.
The next thing is your profile. Take time to create a good profile and select good photos. Web Sites like Facebook give you a unique way of selecting the impression you give out to the world. This begins with the profile picture and eventually follows through all the content you put up on that page. Do you want to convey an image of a drunk, childish guy? Then put up party pictures where you lay drunk in a corner. But if you want to convey the image of a successful, social man that knows what he wants, put up some nice pictures of yourself, yourself in company of others and the things that you like in life.
As with all things in life, the tonality makes the music. Don't be too exaggerated in conveying your image, otherwise you come across as unserious and try-hard. So forget about the picture of you with ten exotic dancers that you took on your way out of a show in Vegas. Be more subtle. Put in pictures with real friends, family and of you doing the things that you love.
This blog was posted by Markus on 11/1/2009 and is filed under Dating, Relationships.
