The Friends Check
Markus | Posted 8/11/2009

The Friends Check

by Markus

Hey I hope you guys are enjoying the summer just as I do. Its an amazing time of the year, and its time to go out and flirt with some women.

Today I want to talk about your friends. Yes, not you, but your friends. Because actually, your friends determine to a great extent how successful you will be in your life - or not. This does not only affect the part of being successful with women, but all other parts of like as well, like business or your family.

Because friends - especially when youre young - are an important reference point for your development. You may have noticed that 'old friends' get more and more alike, and seem to share more traits and hobbies than other acquaintances. Well, thats because you use your friends as your primary reference system - apart from the 'official' reference systems like parents, police and maybe preachers.

What all of them have in common is that they give you THEIR reference system in a very subliminal way and you take it up - slowly but effectively. Your friends, in a way, imprint their traits on you.

The question is, what kind of people do you usually surround yourself with? Are they successful, positive-minded, open people? Or are they a bunch of losers, negative all the time, and not moving forward in their life? Don't get me wrong here. I dont wanna say that the latter are 'bad' people or not fun to be around with. They often are and I have a bunch of them too. They're fun. But they just don't offer you any value for personal growth.

If you want to grow in some area, like in the area of dating women and relationships, you have to get a bunch of good 'reference models' to focus on. Surround your self - at least in part - with guys that are already successful from women and see what you can learn from them. But dont focus too much on 'learning' actively from them - its enough to be around them and catch their 'mindset', your subconscious will do the rest.

It works. Believe me. I have spent all my life surrounding myself with mediocre models of success in terms of women and relationships. And I didnt move forward. Why did I do this? Well, because thats when my Ego got involved and told me 'Hey, these guys at least are not better than you in meeting women, so all is fine'. The ego wants CONFIRMATION all the time. And in this case, the confirmation was that I was at least as successful as my mates - and that was really not very much.

Your energy follows where ever your attention goes. Focus on successful people you might want to model. Stop your ego from not letting you hang around with these people and 'feeling bad' because you are not yet as good as they are. This is what ultimately holds you back and realizing this point only can mean a HUGE leap of success for you and your personal life. Enjoy the show.

This blog was posted by Markus on 8/11/2009 and is filed under Dating, Relationships.