On Being A Man
Markus | Posted 8/30/2009
This one is about being a real man. A man that can arouse a womans desire and lead her. In todays life, the picture of men has been distorted by movies, advertisement and education. What I mean is that many men don't know any more what is their real essence and what is his natural form of being. these men will always have difficulties in getting to know women and getting intimate witht them, and they seldom know why. You can be a handsome, good-looking man and still get no girl just because you're not acting like a man. Women will recognize a man that lives his natural essence on the spot and feel attracted to it, as this is a very rare occurrence in these days. When you learn to be a real man you stand out and you will be having more success with women than a rock star.
The most important thing is to LEAD. Leading means being in charge, taking the lead, making decisions and standing in the front line. It is the task of us men to be leaders when it comes to dealing with women. This does not mean being overly dominant, pushy and not caring about her. It means living your masculine energy and leading her through life in a loving and caring way. You can see this more as a fatherly energy.
What happens to men that have low masculine energy is that they either suppress their energy and act shy and weak, or they over-exaggerate it and pretend to be masculine, being aggressive and domineering to the woman in a bad way. Both of them have the same root cause - not being in line with their masculine energy.
Take Sex - which is a classic example. If you want to arouse a woman, you have to take her, you have to ravish her lovingly, and take charge and lead her through the experience. She has to know that you are sure of what you do and you are in full control, and at the same time she can feel safe. There's nothing more attractive to a woman than feeling safe and protected.
If żou are a leading man and want to seduce a woman, you'll want to maintain control of the process from beginning to end. You lead, for example with questions, and give her a structure to lean on. Let then her fill it with content. You are the one giving the frame, so you can praise her and give her approval when she needs it. You know that you've got her when she is seeking approval and you give it to her.
Examples of leading by giving the frame of evaluation is giving an approving comment on things she does, for example when she tells you that she did something nice for you. Tell her that she is a good girl and that you like that she takes care for you. If she follows you on a daring path, praise her for being so daring. If you want to lead you have to give yourself the power of evaluation.
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This blog was posted by Markus on 8/30/2009 and is filed under Dating, Relationships, Sex.
