Being Rejected
M | Posted 12/20/2009
Many of us fear approaching women and asking them out or kissing them because they are afraid of being rejected. I truly believe that "Being Rejected" really means something profoundly different to each one of us.
But for whatever reason you fear being rejected, it still holds you back from approaching, asking her out, kissing or - in short words - from escalating in general.
Escalating means to go out of your comfort zone and trying to invade the comfort zone of someone else. And exactly that is fear of rejection, because we so much fear a possible negative answer of the other person, because we are being programmed that the comfort zones of other people are no-go territory.
Now what exactly means being rejected? In my opinion there is nothing like rejection. It means no more than that you offer something to a person, and the person does not want it, and therefore "rejects" your offer. Does this make you a bad person? I doubt it.
And I agree fully, it is hard to invade other peoples spaces. It takes a lot of guts to walk up to another person and ask her out or even kiss her or have sex with her.
But let me offer you a slightly tilted point of view on that. Being rejected means pain, OK. In many cases this will mean that the person turns around, or walks away to the bathroom. Does this really hurt so much? On the other hand, there are much more painful situations in relationships, for example if someone lets you down or you realize that your love is not reciprocated. That really sucks. Compare this pain with the slight pain of being rejected, and decide what you prefer. Because in many relationships it WILL happen one day that one person causes pain to the other. If you know how to handle the small pain of being rejected, you know that you can easily get another woman just by taking the guts and approaching. So it may lessen the pain of being let down.
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This blog was posted by M on 12/20/2009 and is filed under Dating, Relationships.
