Be A Leader With Women
Markus D | Posted 12/26/2008

I've spent quite some time travelling the world and being with women in several different countries. In contrast to western first-world women, these women have one big positive difference. They are very honest and show you how natural women are supposed to be. You can learn a lot of these women.

Women constantly test you - not only first-world women, but also natural ones. Tests are not something that has been created in the mind of some "crazy" western women, but are a inherent part of a woman’s mind. Women deal with insecurities all the time, and the only way to be sure about things is to test them. So they throw these little "tests" at you and see how you react. Often this is done unconsciously.

So when a woman gets all emotional about something and “loses her mind” it is very important to understand the meaning behind that. Women have this kind of state frequently, and all they really expect from you as a man is to be there for them in that moment, to be understanding, but to NOT FREAK OUT. Many men get aggressive in the face of a situation that they don’t quite understand, like when a woman freaks out. But what the woman really wants to know is if you can handle her and if you can keep a cool head in situations where she cannot. If you can prove that to her, you get more valuable to her.

I’ve experienced exactly that recently with a latina girl. She gets all emotional from time to time and eventually starts crying and so on. Before, when I was younger, I would freak out too and try to solve her problem, persuade her to tell me what her problem is, and then do whatever to soothe her mind. But I wouldn’t realize that she didn’t want to be helped or soothed. She didn’t even know the problem. All she needed was a person to stand strong next to her where she can lean on; a person that keeps the cool and is a source of peacefulness to her emotionally charged mind. The least she wants in that situation is that you follow her into her emotional state and get all shaked-up too. This is not useful to her and lowers your status greatly.

It is important to not misunderstand that being “understanding” does not mean surrender and accept every kind of behaviour. Being understanding means also setting up clear rules and boundaries she knows and can rely on. These boundaries are a source of security for her.

As one guy recently said, Women are security-seeking persons by nature, which is true. They want you to be this security provider in all situations in life, that’s why they test you constantly.

So be a leader and maintain your strength and confident, and you will be the most attractive man women are looking for.

This blog was posted by Markus D on 12/26/2008 and is filed under Dating.